I know i am going to get a lot of backlash for this but its my opinion.
I know a lot of people on this site that are marrried in the vanilla world and have online Doms/subs on the internet. Is that cheating? HELL YES. You are cybering, and or role playing, via messages, cam, voice, with someone else. You are sharing intimate time with someone other then your wife/husband.

Is it cheating if you are upfront and honest with your wife or husband saying that yes in fact i am with someone on the internet. I dont think so, if the other person is aware of you being with someone else on the internet and they are okay with it then its NOT cheating. Is it wrong? Yes. But thats between u and your r/l lover.

Cheating is described as many different things, to me cheating is when you are either married to or have a boyfriend/girlfriend, and have feelings for someone else. Extreme? Maybe, but ive always lived by the fact that yes indeed you can have feelings for two people but...you are always going to favor one over the other. Thats cheating. Kissing, gropeing, cybering, role playing, fucking, spanking, fingering, blow jobs, anything that is sexual touching is CHEATING. Period. Also, in my expierence i have came across some pretty racey texts in my ex's phone (when we were together) talking about 'if i wasnt with her i would be laying in bed with you right now' thats cheating!! Period.

Maybe i am being a little over dramtic but when im with someone, its all eyes on them. I see no one else, yes ill chat with people on the internet, this forum, the chatroom, in real life, of course, they are friends but would i ever cross the line to anything sexual, never! I wouldnt want my partner to do it either. Treat people the way you want to be treated. Would you want to see your partner kissing, fucking, cybering? I dont think so..

*end of rant*