Is being online 'chatting' whilst in a relationship cheating?

[shayna{L_D}]

Well, obviously you're in the majority so you won't get a lot of backlash... but what about a non-sexual conversation between two people (presumably of the opposite sex) and they grow close... become friends.

Thank you for your comment Oz, let me explain myself a little bit better. I never said anything was wrong with friends on the internet or real life. If it turns sexual then its cheating in my book. Having sexual desires for another or even sexual thoughts about another is a form of cheating for me. Would you want me (if you were your partner) having sexual desires for another man or woman? When we were fucking each other, i was thinking of fucking them, or a role play i had with them and my mind wasnt on you at all? Would you want that? I dont think you would, so why would i want that done to me? Im sorry if you feel i am being a bit over dramatic and i am sorry if you are one of the people i was talking abotu in my post. What you do in your own free time is your own bussniess, hell what you do with YOU is your bussiness. I am FRIENDS with the people that are married, and are lying to there wives or husbands, i never said 'oh they are a bad breed' just think its wrong, i hold nothing against them.

Im sorry if i offened you.

[Ozme52]

Thank you for your comment Oz, let me explain myself a little bit better. I never said anything was wrong with friends on the internet or real life. If it turns sexual then its cheating in my book. Having sexual desires for another or even sexual thoughts about another is a form of cheating for me. Would you want me (if you were your partner) having sexual desires for another man or woman? When we were fucking each other, i was thinking of fucking them, or a role play i had with them and my mind wasnt on you at all? Would you want that? I dont think you would, so why would i want that done to me? Im sorry if you feel i am being a bit over dramatic and i am sorry if you are one of the people i was talking abotu in my post. What you do in your own free time is your own bussniess, hell what you do with YOU is your bussiness. I am FRIENDS with the people that are married, and are lying to there wives or husbands, i never said 'oh they are a bad breed' just think its wrong, i hold nothing against them.

Im sorry if i offened you.

I don't think I quoted you in a way that indicated I was offended.

But the next question is... what if the spouse considers this online, platonic friendship, a violation of trust. It happens all the time. Have you therefore cheated?

This is basically the same point I discussed with arria... because not everyone considers sex (online or not) to be the deal breaker. I have acquaintances who get 4 hours a year to be away for their spouse, and have to beg for that. I can well imagine him being online "cheating" her out of her precious "me time" and none of it sexual.

Regardless, I don't deny that everyone is entitled to their opinions... I just object (not that you did this) to those who insist on directly insulting a number of my friends here on the forums because they hold a different opinion... and do so in such a way that if they come out to defend themselves, they'll obviously be the victims of some vile epithets.

[shayna{L_D}]

I don't think I quoted you in a way that indicated I was offended.

But the next question is... what if the spouse considers this online, platonic friendship, a violation of trust. It happens all the time. Have you therefore cheated?

Im glad i did not offend you, that wasnt my doing at all. I do not think that platonic friends isnt a violation of trust, if it went further then yes it would be. Not take into account i am young, and have been hurt very badly by my other half cheating on me in real time and online. I may have a jaded view right now. When when i grow up a bit and get into a serious relationship where i can trust that person with my life then i would allow him or her to be open sexually. Im just not the type to share, and or to be shared. I want whats mine, and i will keep whats mine, and i will also fight for what is mine.