From Ozme: You know... just because you have a partner doesn't mean you can't have separate friends and interests.

Ouch. Seperate friends and interests are not typically hidden from the partner. I think if you have to hide something you are doing from your partner then you're hiding it NOT because the partner is wrong for their view of it, but because YOU know they'll be upset if they know you are doing it.

It's OK for me to view my husband kissing another woman (I'd rip his lips off his face and stuff them... before slowly killing him....) and it is right and proper for him to respect that and NOT kiss another woman. It's also ok that I'm ok with my husband playing sexually with another woman as long as I'm aware of it.

It's ok to have relationships of a sexual nature outside your relationship if #1 it is not an exclusive relationship and you've made it clear to your partner that you will not be monogamous or #2 you are in an exclusive relationship and your partner has given approval for you to step outside of it.

If you can't trust your partner enough to be honest with them about the things you want and need to feel fulfilled then you should NOT be with that person. You are wasting your time and theirs and robbing both of you of the satisfaction that comes from a full sharing of selves. Robbing someone of the ability to have that type of fulfillment is just outright disrespectful. It also makes the person doing the sneaking total scum.

-kitten