*hugs all of you* So many great suggestions, so much good advice!
Exactly.I can see where this can get sticky: his "truth" is that he genuinely wants to please you, and walking with you (albeit on sore feet) is still preferable to staying at home when you expressed a desire for company. The truth you're curious about, on the other hand, is sometimes what he would actually want as an individual if you weren't a contributing factor to his decision making.
100%If I am understanding correctly, I can see where you, as the Domme, understand and appreciate his submission but are interested in knowing about him and his preferences more specifically and individually at times. There is a caretaker aspect and a protective aspect to being the one "in charge" and how can we care for a sub if we don't know accurately what they want and need and think about as well?
Agree completely. He does not handle desicion-making well; I love to decide everything, so in this way we go together well. I just feel that in order to make the best decisions, I need to have all of the information. I think stressing to him that he is, in no way, making any decisions and that I'm just asking for information from him will help.Sometimes, being asked to arrange something can also be very scary.
devilishsub, I can't say I'm glad the internet ate your post (I hate when that happens); but I have to say your abridged version is extremely useful. I think I'm going to print it, especially numbers 1,2, and 3. It's just beautiful.
Of course we were going for a walk anyway. But if he's going to suffer for my sake, I want to know about it.