Quote Originally Posted by DowntownAmber View Post
Sometimes it's a matter of making your desire actually be their act of decision making. For example, you might call your sub and say, "I've had a hard day today, so I want you to take me to dinner when I get home." He knows you well, after all you've been together for awhile, so he knows your favorite places to go and will likely choose one of those places or will ask you where you want to go. So instead tell him, "I'm interested in going out tonight. Take me somewhere I've never been, and I'll expect you to order for us when we get there so I don't have to worry about it. I don't want to have to stress over a single decision, so your job is to treat me to your favorites tonight."

As J's sub I know the couple of pieces of lingerie or outfits of mine he really likes me to wear for him, and I am happy to put them on to please him. LOVE IT. However, there's also a deep satisfaction in being told to choose something or plan something, to treat him to something I like and to find that my choice makes him happy too.

It's tough being a Dom, being the decision maker and the lead all of the time, and one thing I think a lot of subs fail to see is that stepping up with feedback and honest preferences is oftentimes a very real gift to the ones being served.
Sometimes, being asked to arrange something can also be very scary... but then it gives you an idea of what it may be like to be a Dom and the stress and pressure that has... But I agree that ordering a sub to make a decision may work...