<<thinks its becuase he simply like to submit and be pleasing to her. Shrugs. Omg maby he is a submissive who would have thunk.

Like maby its like the scoprion and the fox parable.


As for comunication...well thats paramont weather or not you only do bdsm in short "scenes" and go back to being vanila afterwards or if your never in a "scene" and its just who you are all the time.

As for journals...it seems to work for some...its never worked for me, (mainly becuase the dominants that ask for them expect somthinng that they could have got by simply asking, redundancy doesnt accomplish much or change my answers to questions), and most likely if your not hearing what you wish to hear from him in real life, dont expect to suddenly start hearing it in a journal. In fact if anything, in my experience, submissives have a tendency to eaither use the journel as some kind of topping from the bottom tool, or they write what they think the domme wishes to hear or some combination of the two.

As far as the whole "dom wants sub to be happy and choose what the couple is doing or eating thing"....smh I wish you the best of luck with that. A lot of submissives have this little place in their head thats wondering why they are even being asked such questions since they so clearly are not the ones in charge in their head and lets face it society doesnt prepare a dominant very well for being in charge nessesarally some dominants dont seem to understand that the submissive may have trouble making such decisions.

Only your submissive can tell you which way it is for him anyway so...why not ask him.