I don't have much new to add to the previous response beyond saying that I too am cast in the same mold you described. Being a pleaser is just such a powerful drive for me and it is extremely rare that I would indicate that I didn't want to do something a Dominant suggested. Using one of your examples, I laughed out loud about him agreeing to a walk even though his feet hurt from being on them all day at work as I would have done exactly the same thing. First sacrifice is a part of our nature and we just naturally put the wants and needs of others, especially within the context of a relationship above our own. The interesting thing too is no matter how much I do that sort of thing, I never feel resentful or put upon, but just very happy for the opportunity to give.

I can see I think how it could be maddening to some extent to a dominant person to experience this since I assume they can quite easily say so if they wish not to do something someone suggests. In a somewhat similar way, I know that when I date in the vanilla sense the women sometimes find it irritating that I defer to them with regards to where or what to eat, what movie to see, etc. It isn't that I don't have the ability to make choices, because I do and make them all the time for myself. But when another person is involved, the bottom line is that it is far more important to me that they be pleased and have an enjoyable time than it is that I be pleased and have a enjoyable time. So I rarely will suggest we do this or that. Not because I'm afraid they will disagree with my suggestion but just because I'd feel so awful if they said yes and then it turned out they didn't enjoy what I suggested. It just comes right back to the same thing, pleasing the other person is always my first priority and the thing that gives me joy.