IMHO, the subbies of which the OP is speaking, have spent numerous hours online looking at actors/actresses, play the part. These people are not your "everyday" people.

What is so humorous to me is that a number of these subbies (and Doms, too) that are looking for perfection, are the ones who are overweight, out of shape, and simply unattractive; and still are of the notion they deserve "arm candy." lol