Quote Originally Posted by TomOfSweden View Post
There is the possibility that he's a dominant person without being into BDSM or even liking being dominant in the bed. A dominant, but not a Dominant. One of my best friends is extremly dominant. But he doesn't understand kinky sex in the least.
Actually, Tom and the others have an excellant point here. I have learned that the opposite is just as true, people can be submissive in everything outside of the bedroom and totally take control there.

There are things I have learned to look for in a sub, but I have never really had any success in making a sub out of a submissive person. The choice has to come from inside each person, and all we can do is take what they can give.