Encouraging Him

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NatalieD Quote:
Originally Posted by Sir_Russell
seriouslynosn

It may never happen if you have already broached the subject with him and been turned down. He has a right to have his personal turn ons and turn offs. For me it hard to believe that any man would refuse to have a lovely bound and at his mercy but sadly I know they are out there.

Only thing I can advise you to try is wear his favorite sexy outfit and handcuff yourself behind your back and then go to him. Kneel infront of him and use your mouth to open his pants then engulf his cock with your mouth. Once he is hard tell him to control how you suck by grabbing your head and hair.

If that fails I think it is a lost cause.

When the round peg won't go into the square hole, hitting it with a bigger hammer is not the solution.

Actually I don't think that this is necessarily true. I have tried a similar method on my b/f and it worked surprisingly well. He has some Dom tendencies and whether or not he will fully utalize them is his decision. We have had a non-existent sex life until I finally had to communicate to him about how I feel and what I want, and push the issue a little bit. You won't know if you don't at least try.

seriouslynosn
Yes, I believe you are correct. I wonder which one I have courage for. I know the best choice is #3, although #1 would be wonderful!

I don't really have any good advice to offer, but I will say that I have been and still am in your shoes.
I have only recently discovered my submissive side, and would have prefered to have been able to figure it out much sooner than now.
I too have options such as what Rhabbi has stated, but they are much more complicated for me now.
If you do know that this is the path you truly want to follow, then you know what your decision is.
My suggestion to you is that you communicate everything to your b/f as to what you are feeling and what you want. Lay everything down on the line, and see where the both of you want to go with this.
Maybe I am going to be a downer, but knowing where you both stand before you make any full time commitments to each other will more than likely be easier to handle in the long run.

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Actually I don't think that this is necessarily true. I have tried a similar method on my b/f and it worked surprisingly well. He has some Dom tendencies and whether or not he will fully utalize them is his decision. We have had a non-existent sex life until I finally had to communicate to him about how I feel and what I want, and push the issue a little bit. You won't know if you don't at least try.

Oh, certainly. I just got the impression that seriouslynosn had already tried a number of things, and that I was responding to a suggestion to try pushing even harder, which doesn't seem like a good plan to me.

[seriouslynosn]

Oh, certainly. I just got the impression that seriouslynosn had already tried a number of things, and that I was responding to a suggestion to try pushing even harder, which doesn't seem like a good plan to me.

You are right, although I haven't exactly told him how important it is to me. I just suggested "something fun" to try....and he wouldn't go for it. A long time ago I told him a little and he sounded interested. That's the only reason I thought we would be ok...but I think he was just trying to impress me at that time.