Encouraging Him

[anonymouse]

Do you have any suggestions on how to bring him out of his shell?

The answer to the question is right there in your question: he's the one you need to think of if you're to have any chance to 'bring him out'. You sound as if you've already talked a lot with him, and this is definitely a good thing. However, from what you've said, it seems to be that you've divulged everything that you want -- what does he want?

An approach you could use is to offer to satisfy him in a way of his choosing. Invite him to be creative and not hold back his fantasies. To do this is to give him the decision-making power. It may transpire that he doesn't want anything more demanding than a massage. Run with that. It's something he wants and you're prepared to serve him as per his wishes.

Let's say he confesses something more unusual -- something where you have to think, 'Am I prepared to go that far for him?' Go that far! Make him aware that it isn't something you'd necessarily want to do every day but, impress on him that you are prepared to give him the pleasure he desires. That said, you can make it conditional on him indulging one of your fantasies that he says isn't appealing, or that he's not so agreeable to do. It sounds like blackmail, I know, but in a loving relationship this kind of blackmail can be an enjoyable game for both partners.

I hope that helps? Good luck with whatever happens.

anonymouse