How did you start???

[Curious bunny]

Just wondering- How was everyone's first experiance with BDSM ?? What did you do?? And how is it now?

[Silkslostswitch]

my stepsister blackmailed me and dommed me for over two years, between the ages of 13 and 15.i was unhappy at first, but soon i came to like it. i have been very interested in it ever since.

[SirTimothyk]

I roleplayed online for years. One girl was from the dominican republic. I sent her a cam and spanked her online. I made her cum. She said it was the first time she reached orgasm. I knew then that would always be my goal.

[Daumon]

My first experience was with a then Girl friend. I had a set of cuffs I had bought months before. No real idea why just a hopeful wishing about thiem. She found them one evening and teased me about having them. She sat on my lap and while we kissed i heard her click one cuff over her wrist and giggle. I watched as she brought her arms behind her and clicked the other one closed. My hand closed over the cuffs and realzies she left alot of slack in them. She was expecting to slip her hands out when she wanted. I clicked them tighter so she really was trapped now in them. The look on her face was a mix of panic and mischief as she realized they were locked on tight and she could not pull her wrist out. It was amazng how diffent she was with her hands behind her back and a bit helpless straddling my lap. She normally was a bit she and subdued. Tonight was to be differnt. Opening her shirt was sweet as she tried to struggle and resist my fun. I was glad she had skipped a bra < and panties i found out later > .

Daumon

[MacGuffin]

I never had a first experience with bdsm. It did not work that way - like a sudden vision or realisation. It is a gradual process. Tying girls up, pulling their hair, teasing them or scaring them with a pet frog. This can be considered either normal behavior or early signs of bdsm tendencies. Then later in life, you may spank your gf or tie her up blindfolded while you take her roughly. Is this bdsm or just kinky sex. So for me it wasn't like turning on a light switch it was more like the sun rising and it slowly getting light.

[subserviant]

the first time i talked my partner pinching my nips hard then talked her into putting clothes pins on my nips unfortunatly she doesnt get it and thinks its uumm foolish, she's just to vanilla

[scruffieII]

i have always been submissive, when i was younger, in my teens, i didn't know about BDSM, i just thought i was wierd. i always liked the girls that wore too much makeup and who had "bad reputations" not that any of them were interested in me. my first experience was in my late teens when i went to see a prostitute and asked her to allow me to go down on her and then to slap, pull, and punch my cock and balls. She was surprised that i didn't want her to preform oral on me or to have intercourse with her, but she ended up not only having me eat her pussy but licking her ass as well. She then gave my cock and balls a good working over, i was walking bow-legged when i left. That was in the days before the internet, so i found out that there were others like me by going to adult bookstores and buying the Fem-Dom magazines. my wife is not into the BDSM sceen at all, so now i go to professional Doms for my kink. Believe me i have come a long way since those teen years back in the late 1960s.

[shayna{L_D}]

mine is pretty foolish, but i had a girlfriend at the time. My frist and last girlfriend (lol). she was going down on me and i kept pushing her head away when i was close to cumming and or closing my legs when i was close to cumming. So she tied me up, hands and feet spread open then blindfolded me. It was so amazing, it pretty much changed my life.

btw: i never came lol.

[Curious bunny]

all of these are excellent!!

More pls!!

[icey]

and be automatically submissive, the degree i was submissive with people was always individual dependant on how Dominant each individual was.
the only people i wernt submissive to were those who automatically had control over me..especially teachers lol

i always tended to automatically veer towards Dominant people from as far back as i can remember.i was never attracted to anyone who wasnt more Dominant than me in any form of r/ship right from being a young child.
in fact if they wernt more Dominant than me i didnt want to know them.
and (totally off topic lol) weirdly i always defied anyone in direct authority over me, particularly teachers...none of them didnt usually attempted to control me lol cos i made there life a living hell!!

i never had 'normal' fantasys or experimented without some form of pain and such, and although it wasnt the same i always encouraged any partners to try new things
but as for having an 'official' D/s r/ship that wasnt until a few years ago when i was able to meet people from the net.

as for how it is now, well it's changed over time, originally i started off with the typical notion of being the perfect sub, should never ever do anything wrong, should follow every rule in the book....and basically just live in a bdsm fantasy world but as with anything in real life gradually i found my own niche, and learnt quite a few things along the way like how not to be a doormat and how to become more independant although admittedly im still working a bit on that one.
same with play i had a few more limits than i do now, i never expected that i would come to enjoy or even attempt piercings,knife,fire,breath play etc

[AndreaDawne]

With me I have never really heard of this BDSM life style up until recently. I was always in control of things in bedroom and out. And I like the feeling of being "powerful" in the bedroom always do things my way and how I see fit. But never really hurt anyone severely. Til one night my ex boyfriend and I had talked about how he use to do a role play with his girlfriends. Pretend he was an intruder breaking in and rape his victims. I at first thought he was nuts and well he wanted to try it with me. So we did this role play and I have fought with him and then realized I was turned on this whole time. Forced me do things and was rough and dang it was amazing and came big time. But then that was that "one" time.
Then I was introduced to this erotic storie sites and I find myself drawn to "male domination" stories and I would get so turned on and would mastrubate hehe. Then I met this guy online he was like 25 years older than me and we been talking. I would call him "daddy" instead of "master" and he would tell me things he want me to do. That was after I told him what I had fanatized of being a sub and not have the control I use to have. One night I was at BlockBuster and was talking to him mobile. And he would say things that had me so horny. He told me to touch my self while I look for movies (outside of my clothes) but lucky there were much people. When I got to my car he told me get naked down below my waste and had to take pictures to prove it. And then I had to mastrubate and not to cum til I got to my driveway which its a 15 min drive. And not to stop when I was at a stop light. A couple of people had seen me and know what I was doing, it was day time btw and when I got home I had came big time. Good thing my car seat was leather. And was told to walk in my house naked from waste down and I had to tell him how that felt being told what to do. Every time he tells me what I had to do I had to say "yes daddy dear" and that day I had known that I am a sub deep inside. But was always afraid of showing it.
I hope one day I will get to expereince more of this lifestyle.

[isis646]

My first was back when i was 20. It started out pretty tame i was to be silent and kneel beside his chair while he watched his tv show. if i didn't he'd pin me to the ground so fast it made my head spin and if i fought he'd reach for the rope that always happened to be nearby and he'd leave me there till the show was over.
there were minor rules; if i was late geting to his house he'd tie me to his bed and leave me alone for the time i was late. i was expected to be willing to have sex or foreplay anywhere anytime i was with him.
My current Master is fully dominant and the punishments are more painful but the rewards are huge. i am leaving him however, i don't trust him as well as i did in the beginning and part of me is scared to death of the emptiness that will follow BUT i am going to look up my first and see where it goes. We broke up because we weren't mature enough and i had moved away but i always felt safe no matter what he did. the trust we had was strong. i only hope he's still single and would want a second chance.

[icey]

i hope your current Master's not a member of this site isis otherwise he's in for a bit of a shock if he reads your post!

[shayna{L_D}]

i hope your current Master's not a member of this site isis otherwise he's in for a bit of a shock if he reads your post!

agreed!

[Tigoda]

ok my fist inkling that i liked this stuff what way back when i was 14, on this very site infact,

back when before there were viewable sections and you had type the address to the different index boards in by hand,

i found the the stories that had a bdsm theme to be far more erotic and they turned me on more than any others,

that was it i was hooked, much stuff happend after that and here i am 8 year late stil going strong

[Curious bunny]

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i hope your current Master's not a member of this site isis otherwise he's in for a bit of a shock if he reads your post!

no shit!

[Euryleia]

My first was a bit of bondage in college. That experience led to more experimenting and to where I am today.

[DIXIE LASS]

I'm like MacGuffin on this. I didn't have any first experience or sudden realization. Looking back, I realize that after 8-10 years of marriage "vanilla" was no longer enough for me. I had to throw myself into a fantasy realm during sex to achieve orgasm. I secretly wanted my sex to become just a tad "rougher". I learned the hard way that I would be ridiculed if I brought the subject up with my husband so I learned to keep quiet about it. Guess that's one of the major reasons he and I drifted so far apart.

Then, movies and TV became much more explicit. I learned that some of my darker ideas actually had names. I picked up a vocabulary to discuss it with myself, even if nobody else. After that, internet and Amazon happened. It was Katy-Bar-The-Door!! The internet just fed my imagination and I found even more bdsm interests. By then, of course, "I knew." The final straw was when I found erotica/romantica and it just threw me off the cliff. To this day I find myself in an almost crazed frenzy from the spontaneous orgasms that really hot, kinky erotica produces. That's when "I accepted".

Dixie

[isis646]

i hope your current Master's not a member of this site isis otherwise he's in for a bit of a shock if he reads your post!

the one i'm breaking up with isn't a member here. My online Master..Master_E treats me very well and He is from this site. I can't say enough about how well Sir E treats me.

[Ender910]

Mine was kind of gradual too I guess. It mostly started when I was a kid when playing cops and robber games, where I found how much I loved being captured. Only later as a teenager did I discover what any of this meant when I found out about bondage on the Internet.

After that, I got into self-bondage for a while, and after kind of going back and forth for a while I recently decided to seek it out for real.

[The Merry Slut]

I have always considered myself to be sexually open minded. At the age of 17 I started reading Nancy Friday. I never really gave the BDSM fantasies a second thought. I didn't mind them but they didn't turn me on.
About 3 years ago I was flirting quite heavily with a gentleman in an online community I chatted at. He would talk about putting me over his knee and spanking me, making me wear a collar, etc. I entertained his fantasies, but still didn't think too much about it but he persisted and I really started to let myself get into it.
Enter a friend that intrigued me. We spoke briefly about tying up and spanking. I started dabbling in erotic writing and wrote a story for him. We continued to explore the thoughts and they overwhelmed me. I started to really see myself in the role of the sub. I wanted him to be the one not only because he drove me wild but because I trusted him completely.
We made a plan to see one another and explore. Those 4 days changed my life. He took my mind and body to places they've never been. I craved for him to control me, I craved each slap of the crop, each flick of my nipple, each drop of wax and I wanted more. I wanted to surrender everything I was to him....and for those 4 days I got to.

[Curious bunny]

All very interesting!!!!
More pls!?

[lozzy]

I'm afraid mine wasnt very interesting. As a young child i always put myself in situations where people could tell me what to do, silly games where one person was tied up and captured... etc etc

Got to teens and the internet, and found out that other people were like me, and then i met my boyfriend who just blew me away, who also enjoys experimenting with things like this...

[Laila]

Hm I think the idea started in my head somewhere around the time where in one of my favourite books I read a gang rape scene over and over. It was a short scene, half a page and the girl died in the end and I couldn't understand why it aroused me so. But that's where it started I think. I was around 12.

The followed a lot of internet activity - and finally I met a Master from the net. Unfortunately he was pathetic and kept asking me what I wanted him to do... and his belly button smelled. (honest, I was never more grossed out giving a blow-job, and I can't believe there is something that can put me off that.)

And then I almost gave up on the whole thing and then I met a wonderful man who also happened to be a dominant. But he is just my friend now. We had some of my first really really good bdsm experiences together. But I'm still really low on the experience scale.

[leo9]

I started persuading other kids to tie me up or let me tie them up at about age 8, but I didn't really get started till my second girlfriend, when I discovered that she got excited when I held her hands behind her back. In a very few sessions I had progressed through tying her up, to caning her ass, to chaining her spread out on the bed for a session that left her saying "every muscle in my body aches... it was worth it!" Then, damnit, she went back to her old boyfriend, even though she complained that she had to tell him how to do the knots.

But after that I never looked at a vanilla partner, and since then I've been married to a pain-slut who loved to scare the girls in her office by showing off her bruises, owned a lifestyle slave for not long enough, and tied and torture-fucked more subs than I can remember. Freud said that the secret of happiness is to achieve in adult life what you dreamt of in childhood. Works for me...