If there was one thing you could say to a new sub

[chipmunk_]

I agree with every bit of the advice about going slow. However, that advice is so often not heeded by the new sub who's just so eager to experience. I know that I consider myself to be a very sensible and cautious person, but i don't think that i always was when i was taking my first steps into this lifestyle.

Since a brand new sub might not take heed and go slow, i'd suggest another bit of advice:

Build a strong support network. Connect with other subs, especially if you can find some that are willing to mentor you a bit. Try to find a trusted friend or family member that you can share with. Have people that you can ask questions as they arise, friends that will support you when you inevitably hit a bump in the road, and someone who will bring ice cream -- no questions asked -- at 2am (even if it's just a virtual pint of mint chocolate chip). Believe me, it will help.

[fierykitty]

I agree with every bit of the advice about going slow. However, that advice is so often not heeded by the new sub who's just so eager to experience. I know that I consider myself to be a very sensible and cautious person, but i don't think that i always was when i was taking my first steps into this lifestyle.

Since a brand new sub might not take heed and go slow, i'd suggest another bit of advice:

Build a strong support network. Connect with other subs, especially if you can find some that are willing to mentor you a bit. Try to find a trusted friend or family member that you can share with. Have people that you can ask questions as they arise, friends that will support you when you inevitably hit a bump in the road, and someone who will bring ice cream -- no questions asked -- at 2am (even if it's just a virtual pint of mint chocolate chip). Believe me, it will help.

So very true chipmunk. Great advice.

[dave]

The one thing I always say to a newbie is do not "fall in love" right away. And don't reveal personal information: full name, address, phone number, etc. Keep private information private and proceed very carefully. If some day you should decide to meet someone, follow the guidelines listed in the forums or talk to an experienced, knowledgeable person like denuseri. Chat can be addictive and its easy to do something stupid unless you follow certain rules no matter what.
dave