Living a second life completely in your mind...

[leo9]

It's a bugger when you discover suddenly in the middle of your life what you really, really need, and it doesn't in any way fit with where you are right now. The bad news is, it's not going to go away. The good news is, if you can find a way to have it, you'll be happier than you ever thought possible.

[shygirlD]

It's a bugger when you discover suddenly in the middle of your life what you really, really need, and it doesn't in any way fit with where you are right now. The bad news is, it's not going to go away. The good news is, if you can find a way to have it, you'll be happier than you ever thought possible.

This is me right now. Even though I'm in an "ok" but non-emotional marriage, I'm not a cheater. So it's been a real struggle trying to figure out how to fulfill my needs without having a Dom. So, right now I'm living vicariously through my mind

[leo9]

This is me right now. Even though I'm in an "ok" but non-emotional marriage, I'm not a cheater.

So don't cheat. Persuade your spouse that having someone tie you up and spank you once a month isn't a threat to your marriage, and might save it.

I didn't say it was easy, but there are people here who have done it.