Quote Originally Posted by Crovack View Post

I suppose it reminds me of something I told a sub friend recently. Every scene, every relationship - is a game. The joy of being in a non-vanilla relationship however, is you already know who is going to win and who is going to lose. The outcome of the game is pre-decided. Everyone knows the results before you start. However, once you accept that the ending is the same, you can focus on simply playing the game. You may play the game every time the same way for a sense of comfort. You may simply start out the same way, always opening with that queen's pawn. Or every game may be completely different. But you stop caring about winning. You stop caring about losing. You just focus on the playing.
I missed this post....

A thoughtful, provocative insight into the 'game'. Athough as you say the outcome is irrelevant; as we both know the resultant finale, both parties mutually euphoric in the dominance/submission.