I agree they can be the same. I was simply pointing out that the phrase "the punishment must fit the crime" wasn't mine.
I don't agree that doing the same thing to the perpetrator that he did to the victim, whether that be killing him, torturing him, or raping him, necessarily fits the crime. It simply mirrors it.
If we are to abandon our established penal systems in favour of handing the convict over to the victim (or his family), then we are abandoning justice in favour of revenge. That way lies chaos and anarchy.
As for filming it, I find the idea sickening.