Just read back through the rest of the posts and realised he is no longer in your life...but my thought remains the same, submissive does not mean that you cannot express a preference or communicate your wishes to a Dom....if you don't like it, and it has overtones you find uncomfortable (child abuse / degradation when you do not enjoy being degraded etc) then let him know...

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well done for still wanting to explore the issues of the past, its the only way to move forward