Why 'slut' ?

[yama]

But for some, the fact that it is seen as a humiliating or degrading term is what they like. And if the shoe fits...

I am very unexperienced and dominated by a girl who doesn't want to own me, so I try, very humbly, to say something only about the verbal aspect of the thing. My friend Lila never uses degrading tone with me. Her words are tender even if she gives me sharp pain. We both enjoy the relationship this way.

It doesn't mean that I don't accept degrading terms, but my experience about it is exclusively online. When I was called slut, I understood it as a form of humiliation, and I wanted humiliation, even if I am not a slut really. So I was in peace whith the word.

However, recently I met a gentleman (online) who called me "little one". It was a wonderful feeling. I felt such a tenderness in it that I immediately asked him whether I was allowed to kiss his hand (virtually). And I observed that there are many female subs in the Library who are addressed "little one" by their doms. I feel that the tender word doesn't take the feeling of being humiliated (what I seek in BDSM) but gives it a deep dimension.

It is a recent experience of mine and I shared it, not forgetting that I am a child in BDSM things. Thank you if you took the time to read this.

[openlyrefined]

However, recently I met a gentleman (online) who called me "little one". It was a wonderful feeling. I felt such a tenderness in it that I immediately asked him whether I was allowed to kiss his hand (virtually). And I observed that there are many female subs in the Library who are addressed "little one" by their doms. I feel that the tender word doesn't take the feeling of being humiliated (what I seek in BDSM) but gives it a deep dimension.

Such a wonderful feeling isn't it? Sir rarely uses (little girl or princess) when He is pampering me (playing with my hair, rubbing my back, snoogling before bed) and it feels wonderful! A totally different feeling of satisfaction from being called 'slut'.

The difference to me (and I'm sorry for gong off topic here Laila) is that 'slut' is usually used when I am looking after his needs. The more he calls me slut, the more I know he understands I want to satisfy his needs, & take care of him. The softer terms of endearment are used when he is taking care of me. it makes me feel safe & protected & cared for.

Both make me warm & fuzzy (well actually one makes me warm & tingly ) and neither deters from my role as sub or his love for me.