Does it Bother You If..

[sinderella]

i am with you on that negativity thing...i actually strive to keep as much negativity out of my life as possible, and i am happier for it.

i guess the key for people who do participate in polyamorous relationships is open communication. i think anything that is hidden is what bothers people, so as long as all parties agree to it and keep an open book, instead of keeping secrets or worse, lying to each other, it's all good.

[thir]

i guess the key for people who do participate in polyamorous relationships is open communication. i think anything that is hidden is what bothers people, so as long as all parties agree to it and keep an open book, instead of keeping secrets or worse, lying to each other, it's all good.

Amen to that! I think the crucial thing is to agree beforehand whether or not other people will be involved, and not spring it on anyone. And as you say, talk about it and do not keep things in the dark.

[guest010609]

i am with you on that negativity thing...i actually strive to keep as much negativity out of my life as possible, and i am happier for it.

i guess the key for people who do participate in polyamorous relationships is open communication. i think anything that is hidden is what bothers people, so as long as all parties agree to it and keep an open book, instead of keeping secrets or worse, lying to each other, it's all good.

I tried so hard to make poly work. I wanted it. I literally brought it up and asked for it. I was even in love with our other partners as well. I truly was open, honest and completely forthright ALL the time. But it still never made me feel ok. My Master and the other girls were honest as well, but I could never overcome the jealousy. <shrug> I don't know... everyone says communication is the key, but I talked till I was blue in the face and it never helped. As it turned out though, we found out that he didn't enjoy it either (admittedly partly because of my misery) so we stopped. Now he chooses to cuck me instead and we are both very happy with this.