Protecting your reputation

[bambina]

I guess I see what you are saying. But what about family? All else might go well with the public but how could I ever face my family at Thanks Giving and Christmas if they knew that I did such things? They probably wouldn't let me go near the children. Hell, would I even be invited? My mom already told me (as one of her 'serious' jokes) not to bother showing my face to the family again if I brought home a women. Though I am not a lesbian or bi-sexual, the fact that something COULD cause my family to disown me causes me great concern. You'd think family would love you or accept you no matter what but I've been warned ahead of time that there are exceptions.

[blythe spirit]

I truly do understand your dilemma, bambina; however, there comes a point in life, where you have to decide what's more important to you. You only go around once, and if you're going to let everyone dictate what you should or should not do, than you're going to live the life "they" want and not the one that brings you pleasure.

When you look back many, many years from now - what do you want that person in the mirror to say to you? Honesly, you can't live in fear your whole life wondering what others will think of you, because there's going to be people who judge you no matter what kind of life you live.

And if, at this point, you are just that fearful, than perhaps you should put your wants and needs on hold temporarily.

Whatever you decide, I wish you well.

[MissConfused]

bambina I guess you are facing the same difficult question that closet gays face; "what if someone finds out?"

I guess the best answer would be how badly do you want to experience BDSM and what price are you willing to pay?

[guest010609]

I guess I see what you are saying. But what about family? All else might go well with the public but how could I ever face my family at Thanks Giving and Christmas if they knew that I did such things? They probably wouldn't let me go near the children. Hell, would I even be invited? My mom already told me (as one of her 'serious' jokes) not to bother showing my face to the family again if I brought home a women. Though I am not a lesbian or bi-sexual, the fact that something COULD cause my family to disown me causes me great concern. You'd think family would love you or accept you no matter what but I've been warned ahead of time that there are exceptions.

Well, that's one that we have encountered at one time or another from all parts of our families. Eventually, they have gotten over it, though they don't care for our choices. I guess it's a matter of figuring out, in some sort of order, what your priorities are. For me, the rest of my life just turns dank and pointless when things aren't right between my Master and myself. One of the things that makes us "right" are the rather public games we play... particularly regarding his sexual encounters with other girls and other various humiliations. If we stopped this sort of play, our families would be happier, but we wouldn't be and the rest of our life together would suffer for that. I'm sorry- that's the best that I've got right now. I'll try to come up with something more helpful later.