Intelligence and Submission.

[hopperboo]

1. Do you equate proper dictation with Dominance? Why, or why not?
2. Do you see honorifics as a necessity? Why, or why not?
3. Do you find a strong personality to be a turn on or a turn off? Why?

1. I do. I adore a man who can speak and type with intelligence. Misspelled words here and there aren't that big of a deal, I'm talking about the use of proper grammar. I get annoyed when I have to read, "I ain't got none," or "I seen that" or "there going to that store." It's not there, it's they're!" THEY ARE! Arg.


2. I believe it's necessary in real life. Dominant or submissive. Vanilla or kinky. It's just being polite.

Online I think it's much more lax, I personally don't run around saying "Sir" or "Ma'am" to people online because it means something else in the kinky community. (Nor would I do it elsewhere online).


3. I find strong personalities a HUGE turn on. I need a man (and girl friends) with a stronger personality to bring me out of my shell.

[StormKat]

Awesome topic! For my 2 cents...

Do you equate proper dictation with Dominance? Why, or why not?

Absolutely not! I equate proper diction & other literary competence with intelligence & the ability to actually communicate with others effectively.

Do you see honorifics as a necessity? Why, or why not?

Absolutely not! I have no problem giving respect to those who have earned it, none whatsoever. But so far, I've only ever met possibly 2 men that I would address in such a manner. Obviously there could be more but I don't offer up empty platitudes. With that said, I do try to avoid outright rudeness unless it’s been appropriately provoked.

Do you find a strong personality to be a turn on or a turn off? Why?

Turn on, totally! I like guys that can express an opinion, defend their point of view & offer a reasoned argument. It doesn't mean I'll agree, of course, but at least be able to present your case.

I guess overall my thoughts are that being well spoken, articulate & expressing your opinion is just a reflection of who you are, not whether you're dominant or submissive. I'm very much the same way. As long as you're comfortable & confident in who you are, others’ comments shouldn't really matter unless they’re the people whose opinions you choose to consider important.

[hopperboo]

1. I do. I adore a man who can speak and type with intelligence.

I meant to come in here and fix this the other day, but I forgot. I mean to say, I do not.

(I just adore a man - or a woman - who speaks with intelligence/proper grammar).