Is there any reason why the answer to the "I am this way becuase I was born to be this way" and the "I am this way becuase I choose to be this way" question (for i disagree that it is a dilema) cannot be: ......BOTH?

For me it is I choose to be that which I was born to be. I am a submissive that has chosen to subordinate myself to my owner's will completely so in effect I am his slave.

I place the greatest trust in our love for each other. If I did not trust him so completely I would never dream to make the choice to fully be what I feel like in my heart I was born to be.

I say born becuase I have allways despite whatever else has happened (and believe you me if anyone has ever deserved to possess a " get out of the bdsm scene free card" due to bad experiences happening ,it is me) I have allways returned to this way of life.

Compelled it has seemed allmost as if by an unseen force just as much as it has been a consious desicsion.

For others not so simple perhaps. Lord knows I spent many years figuring it out for myself.

I choose to embrace that which I am. In that I have been lucky.