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For me, BDSM is a lifestyle in which I can engage in alternative sexual practices and relationship dynamics. It's not make-believe or a kinky game to spice up my sex life. I actually do need certain things to truly enjoy sex, and I desire a relationship in which I submit to a man.

I don't really make a distinction between submissiveness and subordination as far as my relationship is concerned. I happen to enjoy having a man as the head of the household. I don't want to be equal. That being said, Taken In Hand makes me nervous. I'm not one of the SSC flag wavers, to each their own, but though I do not wish to be equal, neither do I wish to be treated with disrespect. My place is not below all men, only the one I choose. I do not serve simply for the sake of serving. I serve out of love, and if love is not given in return, I will go elsewhere as I have that right.