i LOVE being told i'm a good girl.

But i understand where you're coming from. Sometimes my Master calls me dear, it seems simple enough, it's just a word and an affectionate one at that. But something about the way He uses it makes it just drip with patronising condescension and i really can't stand it.

Of course the second He knew i reacted that way to it He filed it away for future use. Whereas if i hadn't mentioned it chances are i never would have heard the phrase again.

So i would be careful of what words to use when discussing this with your Dom