Submissive attraction

[Logic1]

Oz, you HAVE to be my twin on the other side of the Atlantic cause I would say the exact same thing..

[damyanti]

Oz, you HAVE to be my twin on the other side of the Atlantic cause I would say the exact same thing..

See...I thought about it, and this ain't gonna fly. Haven't they taught you at school no peeking and no cheating,...you have to come up with your own answer.

lol,

[CookieMan]

what made it click for me....
Please allow me a brief moment to give you an introduction to the situation. Trust me, my post will make more sense this way. My doll and I have been friends for about 6 years now and only recently(within the past year) came to be together. The dynamic between us hasn't changed much really, since the switch to being more than just friends. Whenever she had problems or needed advice, she would call me(always puzzled me as I think I'm just about on mental par with a box of wet rocks) to help her figure it out or just come over. That said...onto the answer to your question.

What made it really hit home for me is the way her body would visibly relax, the tone of her voice would become almost dreamy, the way her eyes would dilate when I gave her my 'suggestions'. Apparently, they weren't so much suggestions as flat out telling her what to do. Funny how I never saw it that way, eh? She tells me constantly that I do it to everyone I know. That was my first draw to become her Dominant(other than that she's smokin hot). Now I draw my pleasure out of other things in addition to the way she reacts to the tone of my voice, my inflection, and 'suggestions'. Her extreme desire to please me is one of the things that drives me wild...and makes me feel bad at the same time. Talk about mixed messages! There are times I feel guilty for having her do things for me, things she enjoys as they please me. But...that's another story for another time(the reasons are fairly obvious to anyone who's been through life). On a visceral level, I derive pleasure from her pain - edge play, bondage, wax play, spankings and the like. There are a thousand small things she does for me that draw my attention to her every day from sitting at my feet to wearing something that I picked out or she knows I like to see her in. I could ramble on and on and on...but I'll stop now and save you all from having to read the aimless wanderings of my mind.

Zac.

Edit: I forgot the simply stunning visual attraction of having her bound and waiting for my deviant attentions. There's just something about a beautiful sub being tied up like a twisted BDSM Birthday present...

[J-Go]

This may sound a bit odd but, what attracts me to submissive women is their strength. I’m interested in strong women who choose to submit to me, who will set aside that persona to please me. That is exactly what made it click with my partner. The arousal and satisfaction of play that comes from that is the result of the primary attraction.
I don’t think I would be attracted to a “doormat” as they tend to be weak and looking for someone to “make them happy”. I’m a good Dom but I can’t pull that one off.

[Thrasher]

This may sound a bit odd but, what attracts me to submissive women is their strength. I’m interested in strong women who choose to submit to me, who will set aside that persona to please me. That is exactly what made it click with my partner. The arousal and satisfaction of play that comes from that is the result of the primary attraction.
I don’t think I would be attracted to a “doormat” as they tend to be weak and looking for someone to “make them happy”. I’m a good Dom but I can’t pull that one off.

Yeah. I "feel" you. exactly.
The one other thing that goes along with this, though it's rather cliched, is that hidden submissive thing. The professional by day who needs to submit at night. That is attractive. A woman who can't be taken for granted by anyone but me.

[artifex]

I don’t think I would be attracted to a “doormat” as they tend to be weak and looking for someone to “make them happy”.

The same could be true for "vanilla" attraction as well. To me, someone looking to have others make them happy seem pathetic and not at all attractive.

[thewhiterabbit]

This may sound a bit odd but, what attracts me to submissive women is their strength. I’m interested in strong women who choose to submit to me, who will set aside that persona to please me. That is exactly what made it click with my partner. The arousal and satisfaction of play that comes from that is the result of the primary attraction.
I don’t think I would be attracted to a “doormat” as they tend to be weak and looking for someone to “make them happy”. I’m a good Dom but I can’t pull that one off.

Your answer pretty much hit the nail on the head for me. I would want a man who's strong enough in his day to day life that when I ask what movie he wants to see, he'd give me a straight answer- someone with opinions of their own, who can & will stand up for themselves when the need arises. However, when I want him down, I want him down. A bit of acting out is understandable, it happens, but I won't fight him tooth and nail for it. I have neither the time nor the inclination.

[Ozme52]

Oz, you HAVE to be my twin on the other side of the Atlantic cause I would say the exact same thing..

Brudder!!!!!