Quote Originally Posted by MacGuffin View Post
Ragoczy - If they would, then you're undertaking an act that has the potential to harm someone you ostensibly care about and who is trusting you not to hurt them. And I'd argue, that if you're willing to risk hurting them for your own gratification, then that's not really caring about them very much............If someone believes in fidelity and you've led them to think that's what they have from you, the pain and impact of betraying that is something that will last the rest of their lives and will color every future relationship they have.
I appreciate the possible hurt to manda's partner has been considered but let's also consider the possible hurt to manda's feelings by what was very close to accusing her of cheating and hurting her partner. I do not think it was right to criticise a member's private relationships in such a manner. This prompted my post.
I count seven qualifiers in my post that provide for the implied criticism to be inapplicable.

Regardless, if (qualifier) someone is undertaking action which would cause harm to their partner and if (qualifier) their partner is trusting them to not do so and if (qualifier) the do so anyway with that knowledge, then I hope (unqualified) they get their feelings hurt -- repeatedly and at length.

I trust people, including manda, are intelligent enough to see the difference.