Quote Originally Posted by shyslut View Post
Ive talked to someone about this topic before and they maintained that subs should be silent. That there should be no input from a sub on any given activity until after and only if it was asked for or it would be topping from the bottom.

When Im with my dom, granted I am new to bdsm and new to him but I talk alot. I tell him what i do like and what i dont like and how im feeling and what i think of the music. If im scared or if something hurts or it its kinda disappointing hehe I ask permission if I want to touch him.

Course then its up to my dom what he does after that. What hes going to do at any time is anyones guess hehe I was also thankful he didnt accede to all my wishes. There was a point where i was asking for more and after it was all over I was glad he hadn't lol I was also grateful for everything he did with my input as well as the bulk that he did without asking hehe

Maybe its different for some people but i love to communicate and it helps me feel close. I didnt feel manipulative.

Communication is very important. I'm extremely opinionated, and I share my thoughts and feelings. I realize that He certainly isn't going to give in to my every request. It just simply isn't in my personality to hold my thoughts to myself. I share. I do know that He listens, and takes my feelings to heart. At which point, He will decide if it's valid or not. If I hate a song that is on the radio... or if I'm apprehensive about a specific type of play. It's a line that we each must walk, I submit to His wishes, because He allows me the freedom to have my own.