curious about a collar

[SubmissiveDoll]

To me, a collar has so much more meaning than a wedding ring. Collars are not given lightly, and should not be accepted lightly either.

Most Ds only collar a cherished submissive. They take it upon themselves to take care of and love their subs. A collar is a symbol of that ownership and responsibility your D feels toward you. It's probably calming to you because you know that he would never hurt you, his cherished sub.

It's all part of getting into that sub space, and roll for the scene.

[Logic1]

To me, a collar has so much more meaning than a wedding ring. Collars are not given lightly, and should not be accepted lightly either.

Most Ds only collar a cherished submissive. They take it upon themselves to take care of and love their subs. A collar is a symbol of that ownership and responsibility your D feels toward you. It's probably calming to you because you know that he would never hurt you, his cherished sub.

It's all part of getting into that sub space, and roll for the scene.

That strikes me as kinda odd. What you basically imply is that people wed just for the heck of it. Like, "we got nothing better to do so let´s marry".
I know of no man or woman for that matter that wed their husband/wife just to "do it". There are lots of thoughts and feelings involved not to mention a helluva lot of planning .
I think that to wed somebody you need to cherish and love the woman just like if you collar somebody.
I think the worth and meaning is just as strong. They just mean different things.

As for the collar calming you. Well that strikes me as quite normal thing to do if you are into things like that. It sets the mood of things and if you get collared you "sign away your responsibilities" for the time you play and can "let go" and feel and do things you perhaps wouldnt do when you arent wearing the collar.

[SubmissiveDoll]

That strikes me as kinda odd. What you basically imply is that people wed just for the heck of it. Like, "we got nothing better to do so let´s marry".
I know of no man or woman for that matter that wed their husband/wife just to "do it". There are lots of thoughts and feelings involved not to mention a helluva lot of planning .
I think that to wed somebody you need to cherish and love the woman just like if you collar somebody.
I think the worth and meaning is just as strong. They just mean different things.

As for the collar calming you. Well that strikes me as quite normal thing to do if you are into things like that. It sets the mood of things and if you get collared you "sign away your responsibilities" for the time you play and can "let go" and feel and do things you perhaps wouldnt do when you arent wearing the collar.

Thats not what I meant at all actually. I supposed it did come off short and seem as though I did mean that people wed lightly. But, for me, not everyone else.. just me. A collar means more. I did wed, and didn't really put much thought into it. So did many of the people I know in person. Yes weddings take lots of thought and planning. But, a wedding is much different than a marriage. I think for me, and several people I know, the wedding had most of their attention, with very little regard for the marriage that was to come.

So, what I was trying to say was... I've been submissive as long as I've been dating. I'm divorced. Even though I've been submissive my whole life, I was much quicker to accept a wedding ring than a collar. After every relationship I've had, including my marriage, I didn't accept being collared until my current Master.

A collar has always meant more to me than a wedding ring. It's my personal view, not saying that everyone feels this way.