How do you convince a Dom...

[mina]

He really wants to miss out on one of your hottest fantasies that REALLY gets you going, probably will lead to you melting between his hands...just because his homophobia? *giggles* Sounds kinda stupid to me. He only has to act AS IF, doesn't have to buy into the whole story even.

I so agree! His homophobia can be very annoying sometimes, though it’s perfectly understandable why he's like that (which I’m not going to explain). I tried to tell him that his Lestat would be very straight lol. Didn’t work though =(

That's how I'd sell it *grins*...let him know the positive sides, make them salient, really paint them out in bright colours and show him that your focus is not on what he fears/dislikes. If he's smart he'll sell it to you on his terms in the end.

I guess I could be more clear on all the positive aspects of it... thanks for the advice <3

You live in Las Vegas...take the man shoppping. Try on the outfit or three. Make his blood boil!

I recommend The Bad Attitude Boutique -
The Corset Store at http://www.BadAttitude.com
and it's next to
"Lady C" Leather at http://www.ladycleather.com
Nevada's premier fetish company specializing in leather goods. Their in the same strip mall off of West Sahara.

Wow thanks for the links!! I checked both those websites and loved what I saw. He loves to take me shopping so we’ll have to go to those places! I have no idea why we haven’t been there before. Sounds like someone's made more than one trip to Vegas

You could always play the innocent and not yet marriend Mina to his very manly Dracula. ;-)

That could be fun (and I’m sure he’d prefer Dracula) but I still want to do Claudia and have cute curly hair and be a young child. And I think he knows if he were to be ANY vampire that I’d still imagine it was Lestat lol. He just... is Lestat, I don’t care what he says!

As far as how to change his views about how he would feel portraying a role that in the story the person is bisexual? That would take some education, getting to know a gay couple, and enjoying them as people in a nonsexual eviroment such as card games or something where the sexuality is very subdued. Then after he is comfortable around them, seeing them in a more open setting such as a gay bar with you at his side, so that he doesnt feel as though he is there to be hit on.

Getting him to enjoy doing something like ripping your dress off you, try that kind of play without the whole scene included. Without the repeating of lines, or events in the scene. Then gradualy include elements.

Just to clarify, if he were to be that character his version would be completely straight. But that’s still good advice for working on his homophobia... He needs to meet a really nice gay person or something like you said. Oh and he does already like ripping clothes off me, hehe. I just want the Victorian dress to be what he messes up and rips off next!

Thanks for the replies & advice everyone!