He really wants to miss out on one of your hottest fantasies that REALLY gets you going, probably will lead to you melting between his hands...just because his homophobia? *giggles* Sounds kinda stupid to me. He only has to act AS IF, doesn't have to buy into the whole story even.

That's how I'd sell it *grins*...let him know the positive sides, make them salient, really paint them out in bright colours and show him that your focus is not on what he fears/dislikes. If he's smart he'll sell it to you on his terms in the end.

But hey, I've never tried it with a Dom...so I have NO clue as to how it'd work, lol. Good luck and have fun trying!