I agree with DowntownAmber here. I myself am stubborn as hell in everyday life, and like to handle my own stuff.

This does not affect a womanīs ability to be a sub! As Amber said - the fact that my hubby lets me be what I am in daily life allows me to hand over control in the BDSM part of our lives.

This also caused great confusion to me in the beginning of our relationship, as I thought those two sides of me cannot be combined in any satisfying way. But they can.

I donīt think it is possible to change a grown personīs personality.

One does not have to turn into a doormat sort of person to be a good sub...