#2--- here's a question for you all....

[crazy_grrluk]

no sex...hmmmmmmmmmmmm that is punishment for both...not just you.

sex is all part and parcel of what this lifestyle is about. Because it is about contact and love regardless what I have done.

I have never had any form of cum restricition for the pure simple fact that why would S1 deny himself something he truely loves?????

Even on the worse days I have full permission to climax as often as I wish because it pleases us both.

S1 and I have not seen each other since january so the no contact is really hard.

Makes me wonder who is punishing who.

[Naomisagoodgirl]

I have never had any form of cum restricition for the pure simple fact that why would S1 deny himself something he truely loves?????

My master denies himself because orgasm denial is one of the few punishments that really works on me (that and writing essays, and he often uses them together). Of course, dissapointing him by itself is terrible, but sometimes there needs to be a real consequence on top of that.

Like Sir Russel said, punishment is always hard for Dom and sub. It's sad when the sub isn't able to please her Dom.

Fallenstar, maybe you should share your anxieties about the amount of time it will take you to learn. Maybe he is unaware or doesn't think it will be a problem.