Very hard to give advice without knowing the at least some of the details. No sex seems to punish you both and makes me wonder about him.

Any punishment is hard on both of you, I know I truly hate to hate to punish, so think about his choice to withhold sex for a long period of time. I agree with the lovely, caring and very smart his_j I want mine to cum and often then if I only get to see her on a limited basis I can have her without cum for a day or two so that she is ready for me.

My concern here is more about him then you. Is he real and experienced or new and gaining experience.