Hi lucyboy,

Welcome to the forums!

My name is Ruby. I'm a switch.
A pet to my husband and a Miss to my sub.

I think it's great that you know the type of woman that you are seeking. I'd appreciate it if you didn't badmouth the type of women who don't interest you.
It goes under the old saying, "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all."

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Also I apologise if my criticism of the bdsm scene angers anyone but I'm being as honest as I can.
lucyboy, it's great that you are honest with your opinions. They are yours and no one is going to take them away from you.

Where you've continually gotten yourself into trouble is by attempting to place your opinions upon an entire group of people or to make declarations for others than yourself.

The fact that you know male subs who's submission is not sexual doesn't change the fact that for many subs their submission is sexual and emotional and the same can only be said for relatively few Dommes.
Who are you to make this claim?
It's backed up by what? A study, statics?

This may be an observation you've made based on the local groups you've encountered, but again, each group is different and a whole community cannot be judged by a single group's actions.

I have been submissive all my life ever since I was about 5 years old I loved bossy girls and would follow them around and provoke them into bullying me
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So let me make myself clear, I am sexually submissive, so much so that I find it impossible to have an intimate or sexual relationship with a man, woman transvestite or transsexual unless that person is dominant.
Knowing yourself and want you want is a key step in finding the right partner. Go you!

I am completely incapable of having vanilla sex without the spice of domination, this means that I cannot find a partner so it causes allot of anguish at times, so please don't tell me I'm not a sub just because I don't fit into the narrow confines of the bdsm scene.
Okay, I won't tell you whether or not you are "a sub".
Only you can decide that for yourself.

PS:sorry for the long winded post and please don't reply with anger at my criticisms answer constructively please.
Constructive criticism:

1. If it's your opinion, please don't state it as a fact.

2. In my opinion: Your posts have been argumentative, whiny, passive-aggressive and often arrogant. They are long winded, attempting to prove yourself right with a barrage of information. If I was seeking a submissive partner for any type of activity, I would mark you off my list as requiring too much maintenance.

3. When you write long missives, expect other forum members to dissect them.

4. Ask yourself why you joined this forum and what you'd like to get out of it?
What type of friends do you want to make?
What would you like to accomplish?
What have you accomplished so far?
Did you get what you wanted?

Wishing you success,

Ruby