lucyboy, I think what everyone is trying to convey to you, it that your sour attitude may be colouring your perceptions of the Dommes you encounter as well as their perceptions of you.

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PS:Please forgive me but I would like to ask you a personal question Diamondcontrol is you're dominance sexual? and if so do you extend that sexuality to male submissives????
Since you asked, yes, my dominance is sexual, and it definitely extends to male subs. To be blunt, I like having male cock in me and expect my sub's cock to be put to good use for my pleasure. A sub's role is to serve his Domme - for me that includes providing the Domme with sexual services. Since my vanilla life is quite demanding, I have no desire to micromanage a doormat.

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I think if asked most single sub men would love their Domme to allow them intimacy and sex, they just resign themselves to playing second fiddle to her real lover because that is all their Domme is willing to offer.
You are wrong about this. In my own explorations, I have communicated with many single sub men. I have had to weed MANY of them out because they have little desire to serve sexually - and that is an essential requirement for me. Some are not what I consider submissive - they have their particular kinks or fetishes which they want a Domme to fulfill - but have no real desire to submit and serve (i.e. put HER pleasure first). Others are so into being feminized, they have no interest in sexually penetrating a Domme. Still others find they lose their submissive headspace if their cock receives pleasure. In fact I was speaking with a sub earlier today who seeks the emasculation and humiliation he feels when his cock is completely ignored in the D/S relationship.

The point is that it doesn't matter if many or even most are not what you seek. The trick is to find the few Dommes who are compatible, and to display an attitude which won't cause them to reject you out of hand.

Diamondcontrol