D is for Domspace

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Wolfscout- Interesting aspect of the idea of Domspace! Would you mind elaborating more? I find what you write to be very interesting!!

lilly - Thanks for the kind words!!

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[Guest 91108]

Wolfscout- Interesting aspect of the idea of Domspace! Would you mind elaborating more? I find what you write to be very interesting!!
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I'm not sure what you're wanting me to elaborate on.

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I'm not sure what you're wanting me to elaborate on.

Well, I thought that maybe some more in depth description would be cool to read. I haven't ever heard anyone describe domspace the way you just did. I was wondering if you could give a longer version, the thoughts, the feelings, the sensations. Its a very interesting aspect of this that I hadn't come across. I really want to hear more.

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[Guest 91108]

ok. lemme see.
There are people who can pick up on the feelings, emotions of others ie. Empaths.
These people either choose to develop the skills or through parents and societal influences they are forced to suppress the ability.
I feel it's something we all have if we wish to use it - much like intuition, going with your gut, etc.
There is a subculture of Empaths who can not only feel from others but can return or send emotions, sometimes if the recievee is sensitive to this they can guide and aid in the emotions to include, self esteem, pleasure and pain intensity.
The sending and receiving of such 'energies' is mutually rewarding.

It is through this Theory/technique that I am able to understand the initial post. and relayed that here.

Is that what you had in mind?

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ok. lemme see.
There are people who can pick up on the feelings, emotions of others ie. Empaths.
These people either choose to develop the skills or through parents and societal influences they are forced to suppress the ability.
I feel it's something we all have if we wish to use it - much like intuition, going with your gut, etc.
There is a subculture of Empaths who can not only feel from others but can return or send emotions, sometimes if the recievee is sensitive to this they can guide and aid in the emotions to include, self esteem, pleasure and pain intensity.
The sending and receiving of such 'energies' is mutually rewarding.

It is through this Theory/technique that I am able to understand the initial post. and relayed that here.

Is that what you had in mind?

Wolfscout - Sorry for not commenting on this earlier... I wanted to think it over.

The answer is yes, this is what I had in mind!! Thanks!

moptop - Thanks for your thoughts on it, its great to see multiple views of something so very seldom talked about!

Havensov - I can understand the fear of loosing control in your case. I had anger problems as a youth, and never did get a proper outlet for it.

I find now that when I am getting ready for a scene, I mentally prepare myself by playing out the scene in my mind prior to beginning. I take the physical feedback as well as any sounds or changes in breathing to understand if I am taking the submissive past a point of comfort. When a submissive is prone on their belly, I find the shoulders give me the most information. So when I do slip into Domspace, I am so in tune with the feedback the submissive is giving, that I don't fear hurting them, and that fuels my efforts to continue the scene and intensify it if that is what the sub needs. Not sure if I conveyed my thoughts on this well enough to illustrate what I see as an inner calm, rather than an angry loss of control.

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[rooshoe]

ok. lemme see.
There are people who can pick up on the feelings, emotions of others ie. Empaths.
These people either choose to develop the skills or through parents and societal influences they are forced to suppress the ability.
I feel it's something we all have if we wish to use it - much like intuition, going with your gut, etc.
There is a subculture of Empaths who can not only feel from others but can return or send emotions, sometimes if the recievee is sensitive to this they can guide and aid in the emotions to include, self esteem, pleasure and pain intensity.
The sending and receiving of such 'energies' is mutually rewarding.

It is through this Theory/technique that I am able to understand the initial post. and relayed that here.

Is that what you had in mind?

Funny - the idea of all things being connected is something i've been studying quite intensely lately and - BAM! - here it is, popping up on my favorite forum community! Synchronicity at its best, i think.

I've felt that emotional connection once in a while, where i and another person are completely on the same wavelength. It's something that i have found makes the difference between a "good" relationship with someone and an outstanding, mind-blowing experience. I don't think sharing this complete one-track-ness with someone during a scene puts anyone in danger; it's being super-coordinated with another person. It's "being" before thinking about being, and that is essentially the connection i think those in Dom-sub relationships strive to have.