Years ago I found a female who wanted spanked and tied and more and did not know it was BDSM or D/s she seeked. So it was my first experience in the lifestyle, without knowing what it really was.
But, is it just me, or is it hot and fun to spank someone and make em mine, hell yes it is. Is it hot to cuff a woman and make her serve hell yes. but whats best is the power of knowing she is mine to do as I please with, within reason of course. That feeling of when she surrenders and lets herself go and I take her hair and make her mine is so fine.
But I think ya have to have respect for your partner or wheither it is a play relationship, or a full time relationship, you have to go slowm build trust and caring and the relationship has to have more then just sex involved in it.
I think you have top have othe rthings in common too, such as what you rread, or what your outside interests maybe be like camping, fishing, hiking, sports etc.. Am I right or am I wrong here?