Can you imagine the nut case the woman would be after 6 months to a year of that ? chuckles to self.
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Can you imagine the nut case the woman would be after 6 months to a year of that ? chuckles to self.
Wow..
If I had to remember all that, I'd probably forget memories from ages seven through fifteen.
Wow, have to agree with Wolf. It would be pretty wearing on the Master to break in a slave according to those rules... :rolleyes:
Glad you and baby girl got some enjoyment out of these Demands,in fact thank you one and all for your comments and discussion this list.I am going to agree with those that pointed out that this list of Demands would be a strenous exercise for both parties.There again I suppose it is the very comprehensive nature of these Demands that makes the list a classic if you will of lifestyle writing.Many that I have shared this list with over the years have used this as a sort of an idea incubator if you will and picking and choosing among the numerous rules and demands to tailor it to their own situation.
Another interesting feature is that the list covers many of the more controversial topics I have seen discussed in various lifestyle forums over the years with the topics of public apparel and appearence,exhibition on demand,sterilization,shaving piercings and her having to aggresively recruit other females for his pleasure being the more noteable items of debate.
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Originally Posted by just_annie
It has been a while since I reviewed these but these are my standard house rules that I refine for the sub/slave to better fit her.
Always wear a smile
Always present a slight smile with your lips just slightly parted. If you come into direct contact with another person smile wider, always happy and always enthusiastic. This is all the time at home, at work, in the car, shopping and even walking down the street.
Be Proud
You are finally in your nature, your true self! If you have agreed to this life style you have come to terms with your spirit. Now you can truly be adored for that inner beauty. You are precious and I as your Master will be honoured by your submission. It will be an indication of our superior characteristics.
In all things, exhibit dignity. metered movements, not fast or jerky, not slow and sloppy but metered. Eyes opened and looking lovingly at your Master or the world we live in, but chin high. You are submissive and you are swollen with pride, glow from the reality it suggests.
In all things, be the best you can be, and be proud. This is not a suggestion, this is a command.
Honest in All Things
Be honest in all things large or small. Many a sub/slave has fallen to this trespass. Why have they fallen, truth be told they did not see that one small error in a tiny white lie could and often does snowball into many sometimes out of even the sub/slave’s control. Being honest in all things is a grace given that will be received by me, and thus given the same accord in your training. Dishonesty in any form is not only a breach of trust at the foundation level, but something that will be harshly punished at the very least if it does not leave you striped and fully released.
Elegance and Eroticism
Elegance and Eroticism are seemingly opposing and yet complimentary concepts.
To be sensually and sexually exciting but with great refinement and style is our goal.
I speak of this within our environment and in fact it is the careful balance of these concepts of style and wanton lust I value highly in my slave.
The brain being the most important sexual organ, you will be well advised to develop these skills.
Being Healthy for Master
Since your health is a prime concern of mine you will be expected to tell me about feeling ill. I will expect you to keep me informed of treatment and their level of success.
Willingness to Learn Masters Way
When I ask you to change in any way and you have agreed to it, I will expect you to do your best to comply. I will listen to your concerns, judge its merits, decide and then you must be willing to do it the way I require. Core changes will not be asked for if there is no real pressing need, These changes will take time and I will only be looking for progress toward the change.
Requesting a Day Off
You have the right to request a day off. Master reserves the right to refuse such a request if he has made commitments that require the your participation and you have agreed to it.
Collar of submission
Your collar will be worn at all times. You wear this collar as a reminder of your submission.
The collar is a symbol and its actual form is fluid and will be appropriate to the situation. You may change the actual physical form of your collar but you will always be in contact with it.
Grooming needs are the exception.
Cleansing your body and mind
I know you will present a clean willing body to me to use, abuse and love. Empty your mind of worldly things and fill your mind with the wonder of your submission and love of your Master.
Clothing
Your clothing you will select to be appropriate for each occasion but all ways with an eye to pleasing your Master, and within the dress code.
House wear
Your standard clothing for `private` wear is as follows:
Collar of submission
Any of the outfits I have all ready seen and approved of including sexy nighties
YOU WILL BE EXPECTED TO ADD TO YOUR WARDRODE AS FINANCES ALLOW THE FOLLOWING:
Open nipple bra or demi-cup
Garter belt or harness
Stockings or Thigh Highs unless specifically allowed to wear socks, never wear panty hose without my direct command
Heels for normal usage these heels can be as little as an inch but I reserve the right to request higher heels or even high-heeled boots
You may wear a short translucent or lace (see through) skirt if you desire.
I may request different wear for sessions or to suit my mood.
Bring home a sub
From time to time you will encounter someone who wishes to be a submissive or wants further information on serving. You will of course invite, with Sir Russell’s approval, them to spend time with Master. If they wish to be a sub, you will instruct them on how to behave properly in Sir Russell’s presence. You shall also instruct them that I am not looking for a sub or slave to own, that you are my one and only one.
They will be instructed to kneel in my presence and not to sit on furniture unless directed by Sir Russell. They will be instructed on properly addressing Sir Russell. They will be assured that service requested by Sir Russell will be preformed only if they desire to perform and comply. Their refusal to perform will terminate any session with Sir Russell and can continue only on a friendly basis if Sir Russell permits.
As slave to Sir Russell you will always be looking for potential subs and Doms to introduce to the lifestyle.
Sex in Public
When away from home there will be times when Sir Russell will command you to perform a sexual task, this must be performed with no resistance. It may be a task you will perform on him or it maybe one that he performs on you. It could even be one that is done together or with friends. You will perform with no concern about being viewed by others. Your only concern will be pleasing Sir Russell in what ever manner he has requested
A standing house rule is that when driving alone with Sir Russell you will offer to suck his cock. Sir Russell may require you to be naked for long car trips alone with him.
Sleeping with Master
You will be allowed to sleep with Sir Russell in his bed and allowed to smuggle with him.
Sitting at Master’s Feet
When tasks are finished or at Sir Russell’s command you will quietly enter the room where Sir Russell is, ask if there is anything he wants you to do. When Sir Russell indicates that you are finished you shall sit at his feet and place your head in his lap.
Sir Russell says - Kneel wench
When I say "Kneel wench" wherever you are and whatever you are doing, you are to safely and swiftly move to your Master, if I am seated you will go to my front to the side of my legs and feet quickly kneel, if I am standing you will go to my front of feet, in both cases your eyes will be directed to my cock and your hands will be behind your back. You will remain there long enough for me to touch your head or face, never long enough to cause discomfort unless being punished.
Nudity on Demand
When Sir Russell commands you to be nude to any extent you will disrobe to that extent. To complain or beg or delay will only earn a serious punishment.
If Sir Russell chooses to inspect your body you will allow it and place your body in whatever positions Sir Russell requests.
When alone with Master
When alone with me you will, when not otherwise instructed, join me in the bed. You will keep your breasts available to be touched, caressed, squeezed and nipple pinched at my sole discretion.
Sir Russell may at any time use your hair to guide you in whatever manner or pleasure he wishes you to perform. No verbal command needs to be given and you will be expected to understand his wants and perform.
Smooth for Master
When you are physically with Sir Russell you will be required to be hairless everywhere but on your head. You may do this by shaving, waxing, lasering or any other method that leaves you smooth and hairless. You will apply lotion at least once a day to all affected areas.
You will be required upon command from Sir Russell to display hairless areas at his discretion. You will take pride in displaying yourself to show your submissiveness to him.
Washing for Master
You shall wash your self before any session with Sir Russell unless directly order otherwise. Your natural clean sent is all that you will be allowed. You will pay particular attention to your mouth, breasts, neck, pussy and ass since these areas are favorites of your Master.
You will completely wash your self at least once a day for hygiene and to please me. Use of perfumes in his presence will only be at Master’s direct command.
Walking with Master in public
When walking with Sir Russell in public you will always be in physical contact with him. You will hold onto his arm unless he offers you his hand to hold, or commands you to perform differently.
Since I do not believe that slave need to walk three steps behind that will only be used as punishment. When being punished you will not be allowed to touch my person and will be required to walk directly behind me with eyes down.
Sharing the Master
If Sir Russell commands you to share another slave, sub and/or guest with him, you will focus all your talents on giving pleasure to all involved without hesitation, abandoning any inhibitions. You will only be concerned about using all forms of sex on each person with the exclusion of anal sex.
I exclusively reserve the right to offer you to others but never will without direct discussion with and approval from you.
Accept punishment
You will be expected to accept punishment without resistance.
The reason for this punishment will be fully explained by me and then you will respond to explanation with "Thank you, Master".
Upon completion of the punishment you will say "Thank You Master".
Refusal of any punishment will immediately stop all BDSM life styling or activities. If punishment is not voluntarily accepted after a time you will be released.
Climaxing
You are never to climax without permission!
When you climax you will do so as loudly as possible under the circumstances. After each climax you will say “Thank you my Master for my climax”, after each one no matter if I am with you or not, or if you are building to another. The only exception to this rule is when my cock is in your mouth and then you will moan as loudly as you can to both excite me and to let me know you have climaxed. As soon as my cock is out of your mouth you will give the required thanks.
You are to learn to respond with your whole body as you climax, holding nothing back letting your energy flow to the furtherest extremities.
Hope this helps someone, they are my requirements but all rules are part of the negotiation process leading to the Domination/submission contract.
i am a creature of smiles and laughter, but even I would find these these rules mutually exclusive.Quote:
Originally Posted by Sir_Russell
~elyse
elyse
Your right, I suppose that I will have to alter all ways wear a smile to fit those times that she must show her real fealings.
Thank you
Russell
I think a creature such as Elyse would require a whole new set of rules. :)
never having been in a real life D/s relationship, many things struck me throughout this thread. i especially liked this from Sir Russell:
however, some items from Sir Russell and fantazmaster seem almost stereotypically BDSM - almost what most vanilla folks would describe all this "kinky stuff" as....wenches kneeling nude, being shared, wearing slutty clothes at work... does real life not preclude or get in the way of some of the more intricate rules? or - as a relationship progresses - do these rules become more ingrained as a way of life?Quote:
Be Proud
You are finally in your nature, your true self! If you have agreed to this life style you have come to terms with your spirit. Now you can truly be adored for that inner beauty. You are precious and I as your Master will be honoured by your submission. It will be an indication of our superior characteristics.
In all things, exhibit dignity. metered movements, not fast or jerky, not slow and sloppy but metered. Eyes opened and looking lovingly at your Master or the world we live in, but chin high. You are submissive and you are swollen with pride, glow from the reality it suggests.
In all things, be the best you can be, and be proud. This is not a suggestion, this is a command.
obviously a virgin sub. thanks.
joely
As you grow, you'll learn to love it. Got a prized possession? Do you hide it away or put it on display. That's kind of how dom/mes feel about their subs. As a sub, you come to realize being put on display is a sign of their pride in you which in turn makes you yearn for it.Quote:
Originally Posted by joely
Well said Oz!!!!! i had started a response but couldn't get it expressed as eloquently or accurately so i deleted it... thanks for stating it in such a way!Quote:
Originally Posted by Ozme52
You're most welcome precious.
Ozme - i agree with the idea of "being on display" and somehow, at even this new stage in the game, there's a little yearning going on... i guess i was referring to the rest of the rules.Quote:
Originally Posted by Ozme52
fantazmaster did say that the rules were sort of a starting point. and i suppose that if the rules are clear - then there are no excuses for not knowing or not understanding.
yearning about! joely
joely,
Yes jobs come into play, I hate my sub/slave wearing pants but some work places require them or conditions do. These types of conditions are addressed when setting rules for the sub/slave. When ever possible I want thing done they way I want them but to be inflexible is a quick way to lose a sub/slave or cost her a job.
I also don't want her doing things in general public that would embarrass her or humiliate her. So I don't have her answering the door in house wear, a robe is kept by the door. So many ways to have your cake and eat it to if you use common sense.
Russell
Yes a starting point joely as over the years the Demands list has served as a sort of an example of rules and demands , a database of items to draw upon and work from.Frankly I can not envision a "one list fits all" or universal set of rules that would accomodate all such relationships.As Sir_Russel has shown us with his sharing of his list of rules it takes some thought,negotiation and sensitivity to individual circumstances in order to render a workeable set of rules.Quote:
Originally Posted by joely
Sir Russell and fantazmaster - Thanks for your replies. It does seem to me that a D/s relationship is definitely one that takes much thought, trust and communication. Certainly the same in any relationship but moreso here.
I appreciate that you took the time to answer.
joely
joely,
House rules are set after extensive negotiations and part of that is doing a check list and comparing it with the other side of the D/s relationship.
If you interested I would share with you my check list that I have been working on. Can't say that it is all mine but one that has been around for a long time that I am twiking.
Russell
Thanks Sir Russell - i sent you a PM.
joely
This thread has been a really great read!
Okay, I know the rules that FantazMaster (sorry sp) posted would probably be tedious and possibly be impossible in reality, but am i really the only one who got just a teensy bit turned on? :blurp_ani
Okay, maybe it is just me, i'm just a yearning wench...lol
And, finally, to answer the thread's question-
Some "rules" I had to go by in previous relationships have been mentioned thus far-
- keep eyes downcast
- no sitting on furniture, generally sitting at Mistress or Sir's feet
- kiss/ worship Mistress' feet after serving..whatever.. coffe.. tea.. etc...
- served (nonsexually) and was respectful to Mistress and Sir's (D/s) friends- kind of like what Kate said She has at Her house.
- of course no orgasm w/o permission or command
- dress code at home was no clothing permitted
- i walked behind Mistress, although Sir would open the doors for me, which i appreciated b/c i still like some old-fashioned male chivalry.
In public, i still addressed Mistress as so, and walked a slight step behind. There were times in a semi-public area, like getting out of the car in the parking lot of a regular store (walmart or whatever) that i would worship her feet right there.
I thought it would be way too embarrassing for me to do those things in public, but actually it was wonderful to just be myself. (Besides the fact that i always appreciate shock value, and she and i both shared the attitude that anyone who wanted to judge me or us could go f*** themselves
And similar to what Dragon's muse said, i felt these things were not like rules- sitting or kneeling at Mistress or Sir's feet with my head on their leg or in their lap being caressed affectionately like their pet was the sweetest bliss... so natural and comfortable and beautiful.
However, I do too enjoy rules (even very formal ones), like Tomof Sweden mentioned his sub/ slave does.
Oh, and Sir Russell, by the way, I thought your rules seemed very well-thought-out, considerate to both Master and sub/ slave- they seem not simply rules, but more like ways to live that would facilitate growth and love in the relationship.
Reading ThisGirl's post ,
i am always wrapped up in what someone says they feel while being submissive. thank you for sharing.
Thank you ThisGirl I did place a lot of thought into my house rules. They are not right for everyone but they suit me and allow her to grow and know what is acceptable when I am not there.
I feel they are realistic for the type of sub/slave I seek one that has strength, intelligence, wit and humor. She honors me by serving so I honor her by providing a framework for her to be safe and secure in.
Russell
Glad to share, WS.
You're welcome, Russell.
I wanted to add another "rule" I had to follow with the first Dom i was really engaged in (although it was online and phone until i finally met him and spent three beautiful days in almost-heaven with him)-
i was a smoker at the time (well, i still am but took a 2yr hiatus when i was pregnant and breast-feeding) and everytime i wanted to have a cigarette, i was to ask permission. This may seem like a small thing, BUT, it definitely was not. He was very intuitive to command this. I mean, imagine having to suddenly ask someone permission to do something you do normally without a thought (i guess this would apply to any small task)... it was very difficult to give up that control and in fact, most of the time I chose to not smoke at all rather than have to ask! Which I think he may have surmised I would do- making this order even more insightful because then i smoked a lot less.
Sorry if i rambled, but it was something about which i had completely forgotten until i started thinking more on this question of "rules".
Mistress has these always-set rules:
Unless commanded specifically otherwise, I am to be naked.
I am to do what She commands.
Mistress is to be referred to as Mistress unless She commands otherwise.
Other rules vary from day to day