Quote Originally Posted by Rhabbi View Post
The problem I see here is that if you think it is the friend, you might actually undergo a rape. the key word in a rape fantasy is fantasy. You are looking for a way to make it seem real, when what you want to do is make it a fantasy. Do not worry about knowing it is him, unless you really want to be raped. It will be much better for both of you if you know about everything in advance, and can relax.
I think part of me does want it to be a rape because i know how willing i am other wise and i guess because we haven't really done a whole lot of role play and what we have done i haven't been good at as far as getting myself into the fantacy. its all enjoyable but i just go with the flow instead of acting out in which ever way i should (i.e. scared, helpless,younger,)