If you're thinking in terms of more men than just your own hubby assaulting you (and I guess that's what you're after, if it were just your bf it would be hard to totally disguise) then you'd need to think about some way to figure out if it's going too hard. "Staged real" rape would mean no safewords, no way to break out of the experience that this is a real rape, but if you'll enjoy it I suggest you need some sort of means to stop or slow the scene, at least for him (even if you don't want to be knowing). Is he totally okay with the idea of giving another man let in for a full go on you without ever bothering to see if you're physically taking it?