Body Size & Shape

[damyanti]

What is thin?

What is fat?

I have been called both anorexic and fat...while I was the same weight.

[lucy]

Are you physically attracted to or repelled by a fat person?
Very overweight persons are not appealing to me.

Are you physically attracted to or repelled by a thin person?
My Master is 1.93 m and just 83 kg. So, yes, i guess i'm attracted to thin persons. Or at least not repelled.
However, i found out that calling him "Spargeltarzan" and then telling him that this means asparagus Tarzan is a very stupid idea

What body type attracts you most?
Every from thin to moderately overweight. And although i guess that very large persons can just be as sexy and beautiful and nice to have sex with i think i won't ever date someone massively overweight. Just because there's that thing called "first impression" and i'm afraid those people won't make a very good one on me.

How have your own body issues affected your love/sex life?
When i realized that i started to gain weight i took up going everywhere by bike and took up jogging. Being in shape and comfortable with my body is also good for my sex life. But then again, being comfortable with ones body is probably a very good thing for most aspects of ones life.

Originally Posted by MissConfused View Post
Does anyone here have a body that approaches their avatar?

It's not too far off, however my butt isn't that boyish

When the government can go into schools and dictate what a child's BMI has to be in order to move on to the next grade - ...

Now that was quite some shocker. Which government does something as stupid as that?

[FatherTimejr]

Icey: You've got a point on that, I personally am not overly upset by the use of the term "Fat" when applied to me. Kinda how I dealt with being called fat in the past is I kinda just went, yep im overweight, i'll adopt fat -pats fat-. However for alot of other people fat was a traumatizing word like in highschool and in middle school, movies and so forth for that matter. Not to say super skinny people didnt get similair grief because I know they did, but...

Where skinny and thin were often compliments at least where I went, admittedly rail thin might not be the best descriptive term but for me, its one of the only ones I can think of to describe like realllllly skinny people.

But I have seen instances where people with really skinny legs or such did get ragged on, often times though they were made fun of using other words then skinny like, chicken legs or so on.

Thats not to say someone shouldnt be offended by the term skinny, if someone is im sure they have a perfectly good reason to be, but skinny and/or thin (which would thin be better?) are the only words I can think well, plus respective adjectives, that would be the most friendly I suppose.

[jezabel]

What has amazed me is the prejudice ive seen on this thread against fat people, some of the words used like disgust, appalling are words ive had to deal with all my life....yes Im fat...but as far as Im concerned if u cant see past the fat and see the person within then youre not WORTH my knowing you.
Sorry it may seem a little harsh, but noone who comes on here would be considered "normal" in society and i had hoped that here i would be accepted for who i am not what i look like.....perhaps i was naive...looks like i was

[blythe spirit]

i dont want to change the thread and i agree with this comment, but why is it that people dont think it mean to make mean remarks about skinny people! it should work both ways.
i didnt post as bluntly as i could have in regards to my feelings re ''fat'' because i didnt want to offend anyone but i noticed that many dont have a problem with referring to people as bony skinny twigs,thin as a rail etc

That's you, icey, just being you. However, I have seen the terrible ridicule and abuse that obese people have to go through. And it's not too nice. Programs have been produced that show how people who are overweight are terrorized by others.

On the other hand, most people, who are extremely thin are not subject to that same ridicule. A glance or an omg might be expressed, but it's more discreet. Meaning they don't throw garbage and rocks at them, whilst name-calling.

lol and even if unspoken, you're still thinking it.

[jezabel]

ive had this abuse, from many people, even on here believe it or not, just goes to prove that prejudice will rear its ugly head anywhere

[icey]

yea and its so f****g wrong! i have a friend who is the same height as me weighs over 12 stone more than me ...yes she's a very big girl.. and you know surprisingly she gets less remarks about her size than i do! all the time she goes on at me about being skinny etc (i wish lol) and believe me she can be very nasty about it friend or no friend! yet never ever have i once said anything about her body size and never would, i have other friends and relations who do the same too but i never say anything to them, i wouldnt want to hurt them.

to answer your question missconfused my avatar is me (unfortunately lol) and i think some other peoples are too, so i guess their body does approach their avatar

[MissConfused]

The only people who "talk" to me about my size are my sisters and my mother.
No one else seems to be concerned about it, not even my hubby.
As everyone has said thus far it is what you think and do with your body that determines your beauty.
My godmother weighs over 200 lbs and is only five feet tall yet she is one of the most beautiful women I know.

[MissConfused]

p.s. to icey
you look like such a cute little girl I think any other avatar you would have would not be as appealing

[FatherTimejr]

I do understand Jezabel, I hope I didn't offend by what I said, but it is how I feel and I cant apologize for it, if its fair or not. For me, very overweight people dont attract me, I cant make my body feel something it doesn't.... as for friends, colleagues and so forth? I have no problems, as people, there's no problem, as a sexual mate...well I cant help but not feel that way.

The same way that I can understand women not being attracted to me for the extra weight I carry and I cant hold that against them either.

In the end though insults throne as in really skinny or really heavy make me sick and such, is incredibly insensitive and I don t condone that by any means. But i've also learned to take those opinions and feelings with a grain of salt.

Anyways in the end with anything ive written I mean no offense to anyone, my feelings on it are ones I fee I cant help, my body feels as it does and well -shrugs- its not like I can take a wrench to a screw in my brain and tighten it to fix things.

edit: and to Icy, I'm sorry you have to go through that and it blows, stigma one way or another is unfortunates, and its amazing how many people just let the opinions built on that stigma just GO with out any moment of pause of if it makes sense

But you are who you are, there will be the assholes out there and just treat them as a grain of sand on a beach, and the ones who are the good ones treat as a gorgeous shell or a piece of beach glass. -shrugs- This goes to jezabel too.

[MissConfused]

FathertimeJr do you think perhaps the body image you have of yourself is in your head?
I find a man sexy when he knows he is sexy and knows how to carry himself
A man trying to wear a pair of slacks several sizes too small looks like a fool
But a man who loves himself for himself and carries that with pride in his appearance and attitude is ALWAYS HOT!

[FatherTimejr]

okay...ah well to a point it used to be, for a long time I said self-confidence issues that ive been breaking through by working on it on my own. And while im trying to lose weight thats merely for purposes of health, I like being a large man and I think of myself as a fairly handsome man, I like myself. I take pride in the clothing I wear, taking care of my hair and hygiene so on and so forth.

But at the same note I also understand that not everyone is the same, and their are people like you missconfused -smiles- who see things like that, and I love it. But I also know there are many who don't, which is fine. And I understand that, just as i'm not attracted to everyone woman I see or speak with I dont expect everyone to feel the same about me.

But I do agree that in whether I find someone attractive or not I think, now that you mention it, would be a lot of how they present themselves, and how they take care of themselves and appearance so on and so forth. An overweight woman who dresses herself like a woman half her size, i'm sorry, but will never work well with me. But yeah.

[MissConfused]

okay...ah well to a point it used to be, for a long time I said self-confidence issues that ive been breaking through by working on it on my own. And while im trying to lose weight thats merely for purposes of health, I like being a large man and I think of myself as a fairly handsome man, I like myself. I take pride in the clothing I wear, taking care of my hair and hygiene so on and so forth.

But at the same note I also understand that not everyone is the same, and their are people like you missconfused -smiles- who see things like that, and I love it. But I also know there are many who don't, which is fine. And I understand that, just as i'm not attracted to everyone woman I see or speak with I dont expect everyone to feel the same about me.

But I do agree that in whether I find someone attractive or not I think, now that you mention it, would be a lot of how they present themselves, and how they take care of themselves and appearance so on and so forth. An overweight woman who dresses herself like a woman half her size, i'm sorry, but will never work well with me. But yeah.

I have a suggestion that would work with me; lift weights until you become not only a big man but a powerful man but do not worry about how much you weigh
Women like me love to be overpowered by a large strong man
Find someone who thinks as I do

[FatherTimejr]

oh ive been working on that, unfortunately I have a bit of an issue as it stands that I need to seek out physical therapy for my ankle but my school schedule doesnt quite agree with that -wryly- So my working out has been put on hold. I think i'm going to get some hand held weights for at home.

As it stands im naturally fairly strong as is however.

[Laila]

Oh cominjg in so late! But I wanna put in my two cents as well:

I am overweight myself so that is probably my own little bias.

Do I feel repelled by 'fat' or 'skinny' people?
Repelled is such a strong word, really. I thought about this and for me its not just a question of weight but of proportion. I was at the swimming pool today (lol I may be fat but I do work out) and I saw a girl that I would guess has a healthy bmi but she had odd proportions, short legs, super narrow hips, quite a stomach in comparison to the rest of her body and wide shoulders. I would never call her fat but she just had boy proportions that don't turn me on.
On the other hand there was a girl weighing considerably more but with a nice bum, beautiful round breasts a little bit of stomach... nice curves and I thought she was really beautiful.

I have to say though that this only goes up to a certain amount of weight for me - mostly because I am someone who likes pretty faces. And at some point the face tends to suffer. What I really don't like is when overweight gives a person that sluggish look, when everything about them seems slow - movement, intellect etc.

Being 'fat' myself, I am pretty conscious of how my weight affects the impression I make on people. And I always had to work against that first impression. I dress smart, I wear heels, make-up, nice hair. I just try to make a point of not letting myself go and stay sharp. Lol sub-pride.

As to skinny people - its basically the same. I cannot say that I don't like it - I personally think Keira Knightely is one of the most beautiful women in the world. To be honest I do think she is too skinny but her face is just so damn beautiful.

It's the same in men. My Master is actually a bit too skinny for my taste - if I saw him like any man on the street. But well, I don't. I love him and he's the most handsome man to me.

Its all about face and eyes and charisma and how one thinks about themselves. Yes, that's a clichee but its so true. I may be fat but I am confident and I know I'm pretty anyway and when I go out with friends (all skinny and pretty) I never fail to attract at least one cute guy's attention...

Having said that I do want to loose weight. For myself and because I want my Master to be proud of me. Even if he says I'm beautiful, I want to feel worthy of him. And I want to stop feeling like I always have to fight the first impression and live up to my potential - health reasons play into it as well.

[jezabel]

"What I really don't like is when overweight gives a person that sluggish look, when everything about them seems slow - movement, intellect etc. "

And this is the type of prejudice im on about, just because im fat does NOT mean im stupid, i have a 2:1 degree in history, i have run my own business and im raising a child singlehanded, life is hectic at times but im more than capable of doing it, despite being fat.
weight does not have to be a disability, and yes i do feel strongly about this, just because im fat does not mean that a skinny person is better than me, theyre not, we r all equals in Gods eyes

[jezabel]

ok , sorry bout my rant, but as u may have guessed i feel very strongly about this issue, all my life ive been put down by people who were supposed to support me (my mothers way to motivate me to lose weight was to call me a fat cow and stupid bitch).

we r all different and we should all accept each other as we r, in an ideal world of course, but as we dont live in an ideal world i suppose i will just have to get used to it.

a few years ago it was fine to make homophobic jokes, now its not (thank God), hopefully, people will learn to adapt their views and will realsie that fat jokes r as insensitive, especially as more and more people become obese.

sorry again

[Laila]

"What I really don't like is when overweight gives a person that sluggish look, when everything about them seems slow - movement, intellect etc. "

And this is the type of prejudice im on about, just because im fat does NOT mean im stupid, i have a 2:1 degree in history, i have run my own business and im raising a child singlehanded, life is hectic at times but im more than capable of doing it, despite being fat.
weight does not have to be a disability, and yes i do feel strongly about this, just because im fat does not mean that a skinny person is better than me, theyre not, we r all equals in Gods eyes

Did you read my post? I never said an overweight person is stupid - ever. And I would never. I said I have a problem with it when overweight people let themselves go - intellectually and physically. Of course I have the same problem when skinny people do but when its overweight people I notice more because I AM, and I hate when this strengthens the prejudices, I know exist.

I am sorry if my post offended you but it certainly wasn't meant the way you seem to have picked it up.
I am fat myself, I am smart, too.

[jezabel]

I am sorry if my post offended you but it certainly wasn't meant the way you seem to have picked it up.
I am fat myself, I am smart, too.

no laila, i have to apologise, i read ur comment and saw red, and i apologise if anyone else was offended

[love2serve]

I am overweight and i suppose i give out a false impression by my avvie. However, i didnt see any on there that reflected me accurately. I always tell people if asked about my body shape, size that i am ample and certainly not skinny and surprisingly have never been ridiculed or turned away because of it - on the contrary usually guys on here say its nice for a girl to have meat on their bones. Of course that doesnt make me happy with my own body, i long to go back to the days before kids where i could turn guys heads when i walk in a room, but age is a worse enemy there than body size - lol. I am trying to do something about my size at the moment, slimming and walking alot, but that is mostly because i want to be as healthy as i can be, i owe that to my boys and husband, but having lost over 2stone since the summer, i realise that my all round happiness has improved by doing this. Dont really know how i got here in this thread, i have digressed im afraid, but as a kind of postscript to the original thread, i think personally a well covered, curvy and sexily dressed woman is infinately preferable to most men to a bag of bones who looks like she needs a good meal, thats what i have usually found anyway. Love the body you're in gals, and if you dont then change it!!

[icey]

Iand to Icy, I'm sorry you have to go through that and it blows, stigma one way or another is unfortunates, .

thankyou, although it doesnt bother me personally it just bothers me that i have seen quite a few people hurt by those kind of comments and it makes me angry that people are so one-sided and blind sometimes.
i truly do feel bad for people who are mocked because of their body size and shape..whether they are big or small, its wrong, and something ive noticed on this thread...people are still dismissing it and saying oh but its worse cos ive seen more ''fat'' people get jeered at than thin! its not numbers that count, it's feelings!

to answer the original question this time i'll be totally honest instead of trying to be inoffensive...YES i am repelled by fat (not the people themselves which is a huge difference) ,i hate it and it scares the shit outta me...BUT before you all get on your high horses thats all i see in myself! my own fat! i have a phobia of it, and if it wasnt for the fact that people have been quite happy to post about skinny people bones being uncomfortable etc then no i wouldnt have posted.

[Veridical]

So I'm slightly late on the topic, but I like to think it's fashionable. ;D

I'm neither repelled nor attracted to any particular body type as far as weight goes. What I am attracted to is a man who carries himself with an air of pride, something that seems to be lacking in many people. If you feel good about you, and to hell with what everyone else thinks, that's what matters. According to most BMI charts, I am overweight, and to be in my BMI for my height, you would be able to count all my ribs and I'd look sick a lot. My bone structure does not allow for BMI to be accurate for me, so instead of worrying with pounds, I worry with inches. As the old saying goes, muscle weighs more than fat by double, and to be muscled, you have to be overweight, simply because of the density of the tissue for muscle.

I do not hold prejudice for anyone, be it weight, nationality, race, or anything of the such. Do I see myself sexually being with a very obese individual? I've done it once, and it wasn't horrible. But he did not have the stamina to keep up with me. Nor could I suck his cock without being at an odd angle. So I don't suppose an obese individual is right for me, simply due to the fact that I ran circles around the individual I was with, nothing against anyone else who is obese. It's a personal preference. I do not hold it against him, either, it was just something that simply could not be helped without him working out, and he refused to do it. -Sighs.-

My avatar cannot represent me as it's two men, however, I have numerous pictures of myself in my album. I'm not afraid to admit I need to lose inches. Nor am I afraid to do something about it. 40 crunches, 20 leg lifts, 10 girly push ups, 50 toe ups(if you don't know what this is I can offer you that information), 1 mile walk, and a multitude of DDR a day, has brought my -inches- under control, but I've gained weight due to muscle. At the end of the day, though...I don't do these things for other people. I do them for me, because it's what I -want- to do.