Again, I seem to be posting on a thread that has long since been abandoned.

For me, the giving of pain is a beautiful thing. It is never purely just to hurt someone (that is when you have psychotic tendencies...), it is the way the person reacts. Mostly, for me, it is the closeness that you share with that person afterwards. Of course the whimpering, begging and crying is very sexy, but ultimately it is the intimacy of pain, that gives me that flutter.