Quote Originally Posted by thir View Post
One thing I am especially interested in is the connection of BDSM with love. If you have a relationship which is far along the contiinum of PE, can your still be in control if you love your sub/slave? We have had problems discussed here that would seem to say 'no'. Is this true?
There are those who prefer a relationship complete seperated from an everyday life, and also from love because, as they put it, 'love would spoil it'. It would kill the control and the sex. The main things is to control and being controlled, to be allowed to be submissive.
I knew a Master once who gave away his slave because he had fallen in love with her, and felt he wouldn't be able to dominate her any more.

I can't see it myself: if I love someone who needs and responds to domination, that just gives me a stronger reason to dominate her. But I've seen other personality traits get in the way of D/s - my ex-slave couldn't submit to her husband, even though he was a respected Dom, because he was her husband and something in her background wouldn't let the two mix. So I'm prepared to accept that for some people, love and D/s just can't go together.