BDSM resentment

[scarlet_85]

As Oz said... I think being too pushy or too invasive during hard times can cause people to shut down more. I really feel that very thing may have been another reason for the silence in our relationship. And I think once I backed off just a little, he let his guard down some. And when I shut up about rope, he seemed to pull it back out. I was sure that BDSM was no longer a part of us and found that I got jealous of those that were still involved. Hence why I stopped coming to the site. I'm glad my story gave you some hope. It may seem like things are spiraling out of control but sometimes all you have to do is take a few steps back and let the situation breathe a little. Things will fall into place. Even if its not in a way you want it to fall. Stay hopeful and communicate your feelings. Best of luck, lady