soft smile.. im not sure with abuse..but i know about lies and deceipt.. and if you cant put the trust into the person you are talking to.. to let them know what you have been thru.. can you progress the relationship to the deeper level that is needed for an intimate relationship...

the stage that you would tell them must vary on the relationship to i would imagine.. but most certainly when it goes from beyond playing ... i hope leena can be of assistance.. there is an abuse assistance thread here to hosted by a wonderful woman.. that might also be a place to start..

hugs and kisses.. wishing you peace and happiness.. and scars dont take away but rather add beauty to the soul..