Well in bds&m being a "submissive" and acting submissive are not necessarily all inclusive. One doesn't go around submitting to everything or everyone all the time without reservations or limits. One doesn't spend all the time, every waking hour of the day etc submitting to every little thing. A "Submissive" or even a 24/7 TPE "slave" is not a doormat to be casually stepped upon whenever one feels like it. IMHO most people who seem to think that haven't ever practiced any bdsm in real life and are expecting people to fit into some imaginary cookie cutter mold that simply doesn't exist (fyi for the op...I live with my owner and am in a 24/7 tpe arrangement).