Not being in your position, I've never considered how frustrating it must be to come across scores of erotica supposedly geared toward you that doesn't actually touch on your desires, or even have an emotional base to it. I totally get the need for that emotional reality, because it is what I look for in a lot of stories. Most of the msub stories don't appeal to me, but I assumed that was because it just isn't my "thing" most of the time (exception: chastity stories, mm).

I've been outlining a story with a male submissive as the main character for a few months now, but I'm kind of a pussy about sharing my writing, and if I can't write the perspective well enough, I won't write it at all. Other than that.... I'll have to do some searching through the library, to see if I can find anything. Just to make sure, you're looking for the following:

-msub perspective
-Fdom who isn't a sociopath/cheater/caricature
-msub who lacks self-hatred/mommy issues
-an emotional connection between them
-actual kink included in the relationship

I'm off to go looking- I'll let you know if I find anything that fits the bill. Feel free to straighten me out if I've misunderstood anything.