Perhaps if you participated on the forum more, you'd reveal some of your opinions and perspectives, your experience and experiences, your kinks and methods... and get more interest from those who tend not to trust online meet-ups.

It took me a full two years of participating before people started to take interest with me. I've now met with nearly 30 Library members. Each "successful" (meaning safe,) meeting led others to try.

I even returned from one of my road trips to find that my local munch group had a new couple who "knew me" by my library reputation... and that led to more fun.