My Current partner had never seen, experienced nor had any dealings with anything outside of traditional vanilla, that is until he met me... And having philosophies of my own, that which work off of faith, government,and mathematics that do go against the norm but have been accepted by the individuals closest to me. I like thinking for myself, and I like sex with all of the elements, sex, passion, spanks, filthy language, degradation, forced to commit acts i would love to do anyway. Am I defective? Hell no... I am a straight forward individual who has privied itself to have mind of self, not other peoples thoughts or commissions about who I need to be. And for my pre-vanilla partner, he's becoming more deviant than I, and I love it!