why does it never work lorraine? what kinds of things seem to go wrong?

what do you think it is about the people you've met online so far that's contributed to things not working out?
i understand where you're coming from about being scared to meet or attend something local. i would have great anxiety about it too.
i don't know if it appeals to you, but i'm in the uk too, not that that necessarily makes a difference, just in that we're kind of more 'local' to each other..than (from what i see) many of the people using the forum may be.

if you want to pm me for a rant/offload or anything, please feel free :0)